Sometimes things suck.
Looking on the bright side doesn’t always help. Positive thinking doesn’t always help. Gratitude and mindfulness don’t always help. Those things help in some situations, but they’re not a universal cure that will fix everything.
Noticing that things suck isn’t what makes them suck, and pretending that things are ok will not make them better.
Sometimes people act like it’s your fault for noticing, like if you’d just have a positive attitude, nothing would be bad. But it doesn’t work that way. Taking a positive attitude only fixes things when your attitude is the problem. Sometimes it isn’t.
Sometimes things really are that bad, and it’s ok to acknowledge that they are that bad. When things are actually bad externally, being realistic about what’s going on can make things a lot easier to manage.
(Even if, right now, you can’t see any way to make them better.)
Tumblr is a real-time, continuous documentation of language evolution and race dynamics. Over the last three years I’ve seen the language used by the Black users I follow make its way into the lexicon of white and other nonblack people’s vernacular. It happens rapidly and the astonishing thing is that despite the indisputable and clearly identifiable origins of the words and phrases coined primarily by Black Americans, nonblacks lay immediate claim to the language and use it to trivialize African American culture and dehumanize and persecute its purveyors.
In certain areas of my life, I actively seek out solitude. Especially for someone in my line of work, solitude is, more or less, an inevitable circumstance. Sometimes, however, this sense of isolation, like acid spilling out of a bottle, can unconsciously eat away at a person’s heart and dissolve it. You could see it, too, as a kind of double-edged sword. It protects me, but at the same time steadily cuts away at me from the inside.
I would like to bring up an important point right now.
Autistics are literally forced to learn NT social skills, communication, and body language. Otherwise we will be openly discriminated against and mistreated. I was bullied so extensively when I was young that I cried…
The way neurotypical scientists frame autistic behavior is so fucked up.
Autistic people tend to talk enthusiastically, and at length about the things we love. You can frame this in one of two ways
"Autistic people show a strong desire to share the things they love with those around them"
"Autistic people are self-centered, obsessive and unaware of other people, and show no desire to have reciprocal conversation"
And, guess which one the neurotypical scientists go for?